I like keeping in touch with people over on Twitter and Facebook. People includes bloggers and ones I know in real life. Bloggers have a lot of fun over on Facebook and Twitter, I don’t think it is too wrong to interact with them outside of the formal comments’ section of their and my blogs. So I use the nom de plume by which they know me here.
If one likes and enjoys my blog (which I am not sure many do) that I write very damn honestly as Guria, why do they have problems with using that as the name of the Facebook friend? I mean that is how you know me in the first place, virtual or not.
Again, some of my blogger friends are on my real FB account as they are friends, like Neha, Harini among others, who know me beyond the blogger-me (beyond Maverick Misfit). On Guria, I can add bloggers blindly, but never on the other account. Why would I add bloggers I don’t really know on my non-blogging profile when it is meant for people who actually know me? The other option is don’t at all be friends with bloggers, stay away from pages and people like Blog-a-Ton, GingerChai, Indiblogger, Blogadda etc.
Guria is my nick, a nick that not everyone calls me by but a nick all the same. I have social obligations like anyone else in the physical world where I cannot be ‘the misfit girl’. I value the freedom of expression that this tag and this blog gets me, away from the confines of the world and people I meet/know on daily basis or just socially. So, it’s feels strange when I see people thinking that I am hiding the real me just because I am not using my real (well, Guria seems pretty real to me tho’) name… When the truth is I do not use my proper name to be the real me!
It is not the bloggers whom I keep out but the people I know socially that I do. If it is my freedom that is challenged, Maverick Misfit comes first and I’d rather not be friends with anybody. I am almost jealous of the people who can be themselves everywhere, sadly I am not one of them.
There are more layers to a person than just the name. And I still don’t understand why the perception is that by two names, the personality changes! Managing two accounts is not easy or something I enjoy but it’s a small price to pay for having a part in the virtual world that also brings me solace. (Neha: I ping you from two accounts just to irritate you! ;))
But it hurts if one thinks that it is duplicity (or trickery) to have two accounts when all it is, is breaking free on my part.
N.B. I write and always will as Guria. I tried tricking no one including my school friend (I had debated for a long time whether to tell her or not, when I had realised that she was) but my anonymity was (is) important to me. I have often left comments with my real name, have been commented to (and still am) with it, and it is not a secret. S stands for Sreya (without the H) but I’d still love you to call me Guria. Neha, don’t feel guilty, it’s not your fault that I am stupid (I’d thoroughly enjoyed your post, had known what it was for after all!). You know, I love you. G. 🙂