Apologies



It is always said, and rightly so, that there is dignity in saying ‘Sorry’, there’s strength in accepting that you were wrong. There is pride, there is good education, and there is honour in being able to apologize. But on the other side of the same coin, it takes equal values, upbringing and honour in being able to accept an apology. 

Studies indicate -and once you think about it, it sounds true, too- that in close relationships between men and women, women calm down with an apology whereas men may get more heated on an apology because to them it subconsciously means an admittance of guilt. But this is in the gender make-up and mostly, if not always, applicable in the relationships of a parent-child, spouses etc. Which is not what I am talking about.

An apology which is not necessarily done out of guilt but of accepting a wrong is always applauded. And so should the ability to receive that apology with head held high, lack of gloating or loss of temper and just a regal nod of head be equally applauded and appreciated.

To maintain one’s dignity even when in the right, more when an other person is wrong is a show of integrity and honour. And they really have my admiration and respect as much as them who can admit being wrong have. Both takes character.


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About Guria

An Artist in Science - I am a Misfit 'cause I choose to be one. "Whenever you find that you are on the side of the majority, it is time to reform" And I am a Maverick, because, I'm... umm... brilliant?
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13 Responses to Apologies

  1. Karthik says:

    Would like to shake your hands for writing this up! A class apart.
    *bows head*

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  2. Roshmi Sinha says:

    Hmmmm.

    As they say: Angrez chale gaye… sorry chhor gaye…

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  3. thats so true and three words..Both takes character..:)

    i like the way u write and think..keep it up gal..

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  4. Deeps!! says:

    very well written, and so true about how men n women react to sorry!

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  5. HaRy!! says:

    really i lwys think i calm down and she never calms down :)! wow neat post anyways

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  6. I agree, I apologize wholeheartedly if I'm at fault, but if I'm not I usually don't. I think I'm very egoistic in that matter!

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  7. soin says:

    the gender studies is stupid.there are girls with beard and men character and there are clean shaven guys who might wear flowers.fuck gender.free

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  8. Bikramjit says:

    Very very veryyyyyyy well said only the brave and true can say sorry it makes a man out of a boy who says sorry and acceots there fault. A very brave thing to do i really reallyoved this post definitely one i woud recommend to any one. You know only today i was going to write a article on something like this thank you really making me believe that there ate really a lot of people who think like me hats off guria hats off and standing ovation well done

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  9. True..very true.. I usually apologize even if it is not my fault sometimes 🙂

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  10. The Fool says:

    So true. Well written.

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  11. Harini says:

    The best line, “Both Takes character”.

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  12. Sree says:

    Awesome write up!! 🙂

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  13. BK Chowla, says:

    May be I would agree with you. Men do think that saying sorry amounts to accepting a fault or what ever.
    This is perhaps, even during our childhood, the sons were always treated differently than the daughters.
    But, isn't the situation changing now?

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