All we talk about are the drawbacks. Always. All the time. Of everything.
But I am an optimist who thought, thank God, cows don’t fly! And a woman who really enjoys her own wiles, appeal and different thinking while appreciating the God-given beauty in men and their raw sex appeal, not limited to their broad shoulders and bums only.
So, today I’m going to talk about the advantages of being a woman in a male-dominated society.
I’m not talking about a generalized idea, nor saying this society is right but am trying to make the best of a situation that already exists, till it changes, and I do believe in Gender Equality. And this post should make the men hope and wish for it too. This idea is mine and how I look at the society and my life, and how I can make it a win-win situation. My observation alone.
If at the age when everyone is trying to get you off married, and it is the last thing you want, or you can get married but want to have a career too, all a woman needs to do is convince the parties concerned, whose opinions matter, who have a say, to agree to you having a career. And then have any damn career you want.
The advantage? You can follow something in life, become or do just because you want to. ‘Want’ is enough, it is the word. Not because you have to. Think about it. You are not required to be the bread-earner in the family by the norms of the society itself. You can do anything you want without thinking about the money you are raking in. After all, that is the job of your husband or the one-to-be and not your responsibilty. Has anyone ever thought what failure does to a man in the society? He is supposed to earn. Anyhow. He has to. Whether he likes it or not. He just can’t quit something because he does not enjoy, is brow-beaten if he already doesn’t have a equally good or better offer on his hands. Responsibilty is drilled into them from when they are aware of what the word entails. And all they can think of is the money they bring home, rarely of what they want to be in life. Where is that privilege? And they only have been taught, by example not to take anything from their female counterparts.
Partially I feel sorry for them and then I think, it was them or their ancestors who made it this way. And so I say, if I can’t have equality, I might as well enjoy the benefits of the existing inequality.
It is not easy for women to excel in men-dominated fields and careers. We face resistance from only those men who have a secret fear of being upped in their minds. But we have more tenacity and are more stubborn than any man in the world. And we have nothing to lose. And there is nothing as fearsome as someone with nothing to lose. That’s why i believe we can also up them if it comes down to either-or and/or a case of comparison for them. Plus, we are pretty good too, at most things we do.
I, for one, have no intention of being the bread-earner. I’ll put up my feet, make the bed, cook at home and blog when I feel like not working. And then when I feel like going back to a laboratory, I’ll very well do so. I have plans that when I work, all my earnings will go towards buying shoes and clothes and cars, all the luxury items! And so I have told my fiancé.
Sadly, he is one of those men who are liberal and independent thinkers, who have no problem if their wives earn more than them. He is very successful himself but he broke down all my well-planned, to-be-executed ideas when I saw him be the happiest when I did well, better than most. He is one who would relocate because I got an offer that shouldn’t be refused, just to be near me. And he makes the bed, though as a connoisseur of good food, he needs me to do the cooking, but the heating is left to him.
And dang he is smart, smart enough to tell me I will
want to need to have to earn if I want to have that Porsche. Always that is the bait hanging over my head…
But still, my notions were pretty cool, considering…. I just didn’t count on being as lucky.
N.B. My ideas were good, weren’t they? Making the best of a poor situation. G.:)